Any behaviour you reward will get repeated.
If the button doesn`t hurt you any more, it doesn`t get pushed any more.
When your body is in survival mode, everything looks scarier than it's actually is.
Everything you say in anger, is not useful for the other person and you will regret it later.
You can change your reaction with intellectual pattern interrupt.
If you want to stay calm, breathe deeply and slowly.
Accept the idea that everything happens FOR you 100% of the time.
When the tough stuff happens, say “Game on”. Everything that happens, is making you stronger for the future events.
Karma only exists through the extent you believe in it.
Just act in alignment with your higher self.
Tolerance
Abandon the idea that tolerance is a virtue - it`s not! It`s an energy suck!
If you don`t do anything about it, then one moment you`re going to explode.
Make a list of all the things you are putting up with. It makes you conscious of how much energy it takes from you. If you get it out, you will free a lot of energy.
You have to take care of yourself first, so you can help others better.
Part of the thing that you are tolerating something is that you are also tolerating that you are not doing anything about it. If you start doing something about it, it will free up some energy.
Do the small stuff first. Move up from the easiest to fix to hard to fix.
You should do this exercise at least once a year.
Sometimes you just need to change your perspective a little bit. Use contrast.
People keep pushing your button until you heal that button and it can't be triggered anymore.
Jealousy is rejecting a current version of what is.
Get clear on what you want and start moving towards it.
When you want to be loved by others, you have to start becoming lovable. One way to do it is to be happy for other people's love. Jealousy is a repulsive energy. Gratitude and appreciation are attractive energies. If you start appreciating other people's love you start becoming more attractive as well.
As you are becoming more successful you may be starting to dumb it down a little bit. But then you are robbing from other people seeing what is possible. Be an example of what you want for other people.
Express some gratitude and joy for others and you will start attracting it to yourself.
Jealousy is a clarifier of your desires.
Checklist of mental and physical health.
You want to get these things right.
Evolution gap - a gap that opened up between evolution and our current environment.
Our environment is changing more quickly than we are able to do genetically.
Needs
Our reward systems evolved to meet some needs. But now these reward systems are working against us (craving for sweet things for example).
You have a pump in the blood system and breathing system but your lymphatic system doesn't have a pump because we used to walk very long distances historically.
We are sick nowadays because we don`t get our toxins out because we don`t move so much any more.
If you want to go for a “long trip” you have to have your “car” in good order.
All of change starts with meeting your physical needs.
Rate each of these areas on a scale from 0-10.
“How do you feel about them?”
“What you think you could do to move to 10?”
“Why are you going to do it?”
Close the gap - get clear where you are, where you want to go, what you need to do and why you need to do it.
Physical needs:
Air - If you are breathing quietly and shallow, you will become stressed. If you`re breathing loudly and deeply, you become more relaxed.
Water - natural water with minerals is the best
Sleep - When you sleep, your body and brain are repairing itself.
Energy - Running on fat burning metabolism. Take a break from carbs. Stop eating sugar.
Movement - When you put bones under stress, they start asking for more calcium.
Nutrients - make sure your body is getting what it needs. Way more important than to avoid the bad stuff is to get the good stuff: vitamins, minerals, fats (good fats), amino acids, sugars, water, fiber (to cleanse and to grow gut bacteria). When your nutrition is right, your body will be able to deal better with everything.
Sunlight - burning is bad, sun is good. Be respectful of it - get enough of it. Zink
Physical touch and affection - you need it. Physical touch relieves stress chemicals.
Emotional needs:
Certainty/Faith - When we feel uncertain, we will feel stressed.
Variety/Drama
Connection - social
Social Significance
Spiritual needs:
ContributionGrowth/Progress
Sometimes the best advice is incredibly simple.
If you measure things they tend to improve.
What you focus on, magnifies.
Learn how to direct your focus. If you focus on bad, you will feel more badly. If you focus on good, you will feel better.
When the conditions are adverse, the conditions are actually what they are - it is what we make adverse ourselves.
Pain is eventually forgotten. When we diminish pain we return to the bad behaviour.
Maybe the headache is saying something? Maybe you are not drinking enough water.
If you are not dealing with the things you are distracting yourself from - these things are going to keep coming up.
Don`t escape from the stress - dive into it.
To be happy you have to go all the way. Face the worst that could happen and think - is it really that bad?
“What is the worst thing that can happen?”
“Is it really that bad?”
Evolution gap - we think that our everyday problems are actually life threatening.
When the stress comes up - dive in.
If you put things on paper - they become really real on that moment. You will see things as they really are.
You can`t have a breakthrough without being stuck.
When you're stuck - energy is piling up.
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